Making assumptions

I have been guilty of making the wrong assumptions about people twice in the last few months and I have learned, hopefully a really good lesson even though I did no harm. First, was a Sister that I visit teach. At first, she was just a letter because she was moving around a lot and had her address here. She came back in October and I made an effort to get to know her as I knew she would be traveling again soon. My assumptions: Her family goes from Renaissance Festival to Festival and her husband is not a member. I assumed that she was uneducated and inactive and probably some others too. I found out that she is very well educated, comes from a Pioneer stock family of the Church and is as active as her life style will let her be. I also found out last Wednesday that she has a Temple Recommend and so must have taken out her Endowments. I feel very judgmental and am humbled that I could have been so wrong about such a nice person.

Second assumption - (This is a little harder to follow) - In Mandy's dance class there is a little girl named Hannah. I met Hannah's Grandmother (Elaine) first as she was bringing Hannah to dance. I like Elaine, we are about the same age and she has three grown children and several grandchildren. Elaine is not a member of the Church but Amanda , her daughter is. Amanda is now bringing Hannah to dance as she bay-sits her during the day - Hannah lives with her Dad and he is divorced. Mom is not a desirable influence _ Elaine was the person that told me in a round about way that Amanda was LDS. She and her brother joined as teenagers and she is now married to a return Missionary and they have a little girl named Jillian. Here is where the assumption came in- Elaine was talking about Amanda's wedding and that Bishop Stutz (my Bishop) married them. Ok- so being me I put 1 & 1 together and figured that they couldn't get married in the Temple and were less active. Wrong assumption again. I was talking to Amanda the other day and she talked about the fact that both of their parents were either nonmembers or less active and couldn't come to the Temple so, they prayed and decided that for them, in this particular case they would marry civilly and then wait the year and be sealed in the Temple and they did.

So, as I try to learn my lesson I thought I would share this one with everyone. In both instance, I did no harm - I befriended my Visiting teachee and it has been rewarding for both of us and I never said anything to Amanda and accepted her for who she was but I could have done damage and I have repented of the thought processes that I went through. So, hopefully for me this is a lesson learned and I won't repeat it.

Have a great day-Oh, by the way, it was not my fault that I couldn't put the pictures in - my computer refused to do it and I finally had to get Jason to post on his computer and so we are trying to find out what setting on my computer will not let me post to my blog??????

Catch up

I have been "told" by everyone lately that I need to be better at posting! Ok. Let's see over the last month we have - gone on vacation to San Diego - we had a wonderful time, the weather was perfect, finally got to visit my Uncle Buzzy and his wife, Kathy and see their lovely home, and spend wonderful time with Cyndi, Jeremy and the boys and our Kathie. We went to Legoland, the coast at LaJolla where we saw harbor seals and played in

the sand, visited the lagoons of Carlsbad, went to the zoo, and again played on the beach and got very wet. Roll drum please! pictures to follow.





We also have three new kittens presented to us by our "male" cat Kimball - they are white, tabby and brown - and two new calves from two of our cows. Our three ducklings have tripled in size and are almost ready to take down to the pond. Also, Ducky Wucky, our Mandarin duck has a girl friend that is a coot. That is a different type of duck that swims under water. Spring has finally found our corner of the world and all of our trees have bloomed since we left for California. Duke, our paranoid puppy is still paranoid but is getting better. One thing you can say for him is he is obedient - at least to me. He does love to be outside and so we are planning on building him a kennel. Oh, and one of our chickens is broody which means she is sitting on a nest and have 5 eggs she is trying to hatch. We will see. She will leave them for a few minutes to get food and water and then be back in her nesting box.





We came back from California on Saturday night and went to Church and then went over to Shelly's for a yummy Easter dinner and the kids had a egg hunt. Interesting side bar - Nathan and Mandy are not big sweets eaters and so all but a couple of the stuffed Easter eggs are still upstairs in the bags and will remain there until I get tired of looking at them and throw them away.





This weekend Becca came to spend the night on Friday and then helped us with the garden on Saturday. She needed to put in 10 hours worth of work on a garden for her Young Woman program. Anyway, we had a good time with her and we worked for 4 hours on digging mint out of our garden and as Becca so wisely put it "don't ever plant mint!" By way of defense - I didn't plant it, the previous owner did and it had spread everywhere. We were very busy on Saturday and got the garden rototilled, the chicken coop flooring down and repaired a fence that had been broken by the cows. Now, I am going to try put some pictures in this post! My head is down in shame but after picking the pictures and trying to send them over the computer said it couldn't do it! Big sigh, I will have to have another tutorial with Shelly.